I want to share something with y'all that happened during a session I did this month.
But first let's back up four years.
I will call the woman who booked the 1:1 session, Susan. Susan and her mom came to me for a mediumship reading four years ago.
That reading four years ago was my first time reading for Susan who was quite open to the experience.
Her mom, ehhhh... not so much.
She was the cutest little lady...
..who said 'No' to just about everything I brought through for her from spirit.
There was the occasional "maybe..." Then a frown. Otherwise 'no' was the word of the day.
I pushed through and kept my focus on receiving from spirit. Surprisingly enough the information kept coming. It just wasn't hitting home for mom.
It was one of the most difficult mediumship reading experiences that I've ever had.
When all was said and done she had basically said 'no' to the whole reading...
Then, of course, when it was over I did the 'MRP' - the Mediumship Reading Postmortem.
How I could have done so badly?
Was there something wrong or off with my connection with spirit in this reading?
Why do I bother with this mediumship stuff anyway?
(...It's such a pain in the ass.)
Fast forward with me now to this month.
Susan is scheduled to come to my home office at 1:30 pm.
She arrived. With her mother in tow.
As an aside... before the session, during my preparation I could feel her mother 'coming in'. I actually wondered if her mother had transitioned and would be showing up during the reading in spirit.
No... it meant that her mother was coming with her for a reading in her physical body.
Susan had not disclosed this to me nor asked me if she could bring her mother with her when she booked.
I had a brief moment when I almost put a kibosh on the session. However, I remembered that spirit was in charge here and that mom had probably come for a reason. And hopefully that reason was not just to drive me batty or teach me some kind of (sadistic!) lesson.
As I was beginning my tune in process mom pipes up that she wants to tell me something.
I smiled and asked mom to please remain silent so I could do my thing. I was more professional than that sounds...
I shared my initial impressions with them both, then Susan pipes up and says:
"The reason we're came today is because mom wanted to come. She gave you a hard time when we saw you four years ago. What you don't know is that on the way home in the car that night everything you told her in that reading began to make sense. She realized by the time we got home that it ALL made sense, every last bit of it."
Mom smiled and said " I know I gave you a hard time. I just couldn't remember the details that you said until I had time to think about it all."
You could have knocked me over with a feather.
OK... so why am I sharing this with you?
Because so many of you dear beautiful folks on the mediumship development journey, reached out to me after reading my Psychic Stage Fright article and podcast expressing how much that article 'hit a nerve' as it were. So many of you deeply identified with what I had to say in that one.
Ok back to my story.
Did I let that experience four years ago with mom shake my confidence as a medium?
Did I berate myself for not having 'done better' in that reading?
Did I allow my confidence and trust in my connection to spirit waver?
Should I have?
Because my connection with spirit in that reading was solid.
Mom not being able to take what spirit had to give made no gosh darn difference to the whole gosh darn thing.
And, as it so happens... that was confirmed four years later.
Sometimes we mediums have a difficult moment in a reading or even a difficult entire reading like I did with Susan's mom where we feel like we are hitting our heads against a wall and getting nothing worth a fig from spirit for our client.
Here's the deal.
The 'success' of a mediumship reading does not rest on the medium's shoulders alone.
Let's face it, even the simplest of conversations happening entirely on the earth plane between two living people can be subject to potential misunderstandings.
Frankly, human to human communication is fraught with imperfection.
So why wouldn't we expect that would happen sometimes, maybe even more than sometimes with the spirit world as well?
...and cut our mediumship ass's a break when it does happen.
And allow that it may not be because of something we did or didn't do?
And not beat ourselves up so darn hard and carry it for days and days, etc. etc. etc...
Here's the thing: there are a number of factors that ALL contribute to the potential clarity of a reading.
One of the biggest factors - the one that happened in the reading I did four years ago - is that sometimes a reading simply needs to be processed or unpacked by the client.
After the reading has finished.
Out of the sight line and the presence of the medium who gave the reading.
Without the medium there to hear how well it went. And have it confirmed for her how solid her connection with spirit really was.
Because no one can confirm YOUR connection with spirit. Only you can reflect on that aspect of your mediumship.
Another factor is this: the client comes with her own expectations about what she considers to be valid information. And the communicating spirit has different ideas. You are stuck in the middle. That's how it goes. The sitter is not getting what she thinks she needs or wants to hear from the spirit. So she says 'no'.
People are funny. Many don't really even get what it is we mediums do. Even when they are coming to see us. Why would they? They're not mediums.
They come with all sorts of ideas, expectations, biases, beliefs, blocks and opinions.
You give them what spirit gives you. They don't recognize or understand the information. They say no, no, no then go away and think about it. Then go "Oh right I remember. That makes perfect sense now!"
But they don't always pick up the phone or email you to let YOU know.
I have had readings that didn't make much sense to me at all while they were happening. And then... OMG... it all falls into place three days later.
And I am guilty of not letting the medium know this fact.
Though I have to admit that I once did do what mom did to me to a medium who brought through a spirit I could make absolutely no sense during the reading.
I had a chance to think about it afterwards and, bam... I knew exactly who that spirit was.
I saw that medium again two years later and told her then that I knew after the reading who that spirit was.
(I have to tell you that, during the reading she was darn feisty and wouldn't take no for an answer. She had complete confidence in her connection with spirit.)
So there you go.
What's my point here?
Do your readings. Then let them go.
Nix the postmortems.
The messages from spirit are not yours to postmortem anyway. They are spirit's to give to their friends and loved ones. Through you.
Work always to strengthen your connection with spirit. Do your good work as a medium for others. Then move on.
Maybe, just maybe you'll find out how well a reading you thought "you" bombed went four years later.
And maybe you won't.
Hi, I'm Clare...
...and I'm a mentor whose passion is helping budding mediums go from feeling weird, worried and overwhelmed to feeling “wow this is so damn cool!”
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