If you are going to be communicating with spirit you need to know a thing or two about maintaining good healthy boundaries with the spirit world.
(Even if you're not going to be communicating with spirit it's still a good idea...)
If you are working with spirit in any capacity you need to establish appropriate boundaries.
You want to be safe.
You want to feel comfortable.
You want to love what you are doing.
You want to be kickass. (Kickass mediums always set good boundaries with the spirit world.)
You want to save yourself unnecessary intrusion and frustration by getting this sorted out at the beginning of your development.
Setting good and solid boudaries with the spirit world is part of putting the proper foundation into place for doing mediumship.
New and developing mediums show or, in other words, illuminate to the spirit world in a certain way.
It's in a way that says to spirit "Hey...over here...! I'm a medium! I can talk with y'all. I can hear, see and feel you!"
And this is exactly what many many many spirits have been waiting for.
Someone in the physical world who they can finally make a connection with.
Someone who will be able to help them get a message through to someone they love who is still in the physical world.
So they get pretty excited and can start showing up at all hours of the day and night trying to come through to you in all manner of ways.
Some good. Some not so good.
After I sustained the head trauma that blew my circuits wide open I sat down with a wonderful medium who helped me understand what the heck was going on.
She pointed out that upon impact (I was hit very hard from behind in a skiing accident) I opened up so completely and all in an instant that, to the spirit world, I appeared like a blip of bright light on a blank radar screen.
They saw that blip and said "Hey guys... Over there! She can see us!"
It was like being the only kid on the playground that brought a snack for recess and all the other kids swarm that kid because they want a piece of that action.
Overwhelming and way too much...
Feeling, hearing and seeing the presence of spirit can be a very exciting thing. It can also be very exhausting. And crazy making.
When I first opened up after my accident I was overrun with visitations from the spirit world. I had no idea what a boundary with the spirit world was let alone know how to even set one properly.
Spirit knew this and came whenever they wanted.
Good thing I eventually learned how to set the proper boundaries.
How to set boundaries with the spirit world:
Many folks operate under the misconception that the spirit world is different because you can't "see" it the same as you can the physical world. So how the heck can you even set boundaries with it?
Spirit is excited and happy to connect, however, if you set your boundaries they will absolutely respect them.
You deserve to be respected and honored in all areas of your life, including in your connection with the spirit world.
Your boundaries with the spirit world will be a mirror of your personal boundaries, the ones that you set in your personal life.
You set boundaries with the spirit world pretty much the same way you set boundaries with other people in your life.
You let them know what is ok and what is not and then you hold firm to that.
But, and this is important, you must be in alignment with the boundaries that you do set with the spirit world.
Because spirit can tell when you're not actually in alignment with a boundary and know whether or not you really mean to set the boundary you are setting.
Being in alignment with a boundary means that you mean what you say. You are not setting a boundary that secretly, deep inside you it would be OK if spirit chose not to respect it.
I have mentored and worked with folks who had all kinds of things happening in their lives coming at them from the spirit world.
They expressed that they would like these things to stop so we worked on setting the proper boundaries with the spirit world.
And these things did stop for most of them. But not for others.
Because the other folks enjoyed the drama of the experiences that they were having with the spirit world. They didn't really want those things to stop.
And the spirit world knew this and kept right on with their inappropriate behavior.
So... you can see why it is important to be completely aligned with the boundaries you set.
Spirits are a lot like kids. And animals. They can see right through you.
Lets take a look at what types of boundaries to set with the spirit world.
If you are going to be working with spirit as a medium they need to know what is OK with you in a connection with them. Things like:
And it is good to tackle this from both the "what's ok" and "what's not ok" perspectives.
For example these are some of my "when" boundaries with spirit:
You can see how I have addressed the "when" with both the "yes's" and "no's" for me.
You need to take some time to consider what is OK with you and what is not in the realm of your connection with spirit. This, coupled with your previous, likely less than perfect experiences will help you create your boundaries for spirit connection.
You can do this by making a list of the things that are Ok for you and not OK for you with regards to the spirit world.
On your list be sure to include:
So there you go. Go set your boundaries then relax and enjoy your connection with spirit.
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Hi, I'm Clare...
...and I'm a mentor whose passion is helping budding mediums go from feeling weird, worried and overwhelmed to feeling “wow this is so damn cool!”
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