Happiness is different for each and everyone if us. What makes me happy is likely very different than what makes you happy.
But one thing we share is that happiness is a result of our state of mind. Try something with me...
Think back to something that happened to you in the last few weeks that left you feeling unhappy. It doesn't have to be a big thing or a tragedy. The way someone spoke to you quite disrespectfully at work or a frustrating experience with a grocery store cashier are examples of the kind of thing I want you to tap into.
Hold that thought in your mind. Are you reliving the experience? And if you are is it bringing back the negative feelings that you had at the time?
Now do the same thing with something really nice that happened that made you feel good or happy. Does remembering something nice shift your current experience to happier one? Does your mood change?
This is what I mean when I say that happiness is a state of mind. Neither of those events is happening now, however, just thinking about them shifts your mood to either up or down. It shifts your state of mind from a negative to a more positive one.
It is so much easier to feel your happiness when you are in a positive state of mind.
Here are 7 very simple, yet very powerful - and for some very radical - ways to put yourself in a positive state of mind and bring more contentment and happiness into your life.
1. Stop watching or reading the News.
No, you do not need to know what is going on in the world. I didn't know that David Bowie had died until two weeks after he did. And my world was just fine without that information.
The news is designed - yes DESIGNED - to put you in a negative state of mind. There is a lot of money made keeping you in a place of fear and frenzy over the current state of events in the world. It makes it harder for you to experience your own happiness when you are dwelling on the presumed pain and suffering of others. And I say presumed because neither you nor I know if horrific events portrayed in the media are even real or at least as drastic and horrific as they are made out to be.
So take a NEWS break. Stop clicking on all those awful news stories on the internet (you only get more of that put into your browsing path when you do). Turn off the TV news and put down the newspaper. Try it for at least seven days to see how you feel as a result. And let me know. :)
2. Get off Facebook.
What's that I hear? A collective "WTH?????".
I am here to tell you that there is life after Facebook. I left over two years ago. And I survived!!!
Simpy put Facebook is one big "gotta keep up with the Joneses" environment. Not to mention the barrage of things that you don't want to see being flung in your face. The news you don't need shoved without your permission onto your feed. The ads, ads, ads... and more ads. On Facebook you're a sitting duck. Yuck.
It took me about a week and a half to get the Facebook bug out of my system. I'm a photog so I spent the first five or six days really missing posting pictures of what I was doing and where I was going. I started to wonder why I did anything if I couldn't post a picture of it up to Facebook so my "friends" could see it.
Yes it was that bad.
But then something miraculous happened. I started living MY life. I HAD one! I quickly forgot that there even was a Facebook.
Yes, there were people who were pissed off at me for leaving. I sent an email to all those that really mattered to me (far less than my friend count, I might add!) to let them know and asked that they keep in touch the old fashioned email way. And they do. And I don't have to wade through all the TMI on FB. :)
And the most important thing... I have discovered who my real, loving, caring friends are - right around me. I am nuturing those relationships. I can touch them! And that makes me happy.
Do something radical. Try stepping away from Facebook for seven days. See how it goes.
3. Get out in nature.
Yup, the get out in nature thing again. Best thing your can do for your state of mind. Make friends with a tree. Talk to a squirrel. Tip toe through the tulips. Wiggle your toes in the grass. Feel the sand beneath your feet. Get your hands in the dirt and smell and feel the earth. Listen to the birds singing. Dodge a seagull pooping. :)
Best way to shift your frame of mind and disconnect from all the hub-bub in the crazy world.
Plus it makes you happier.
4. Smile more.
This may seem like a trite suggestion, but it works for me.
I don't mean fake smiling by just curling up the corners of your mouth. I mean a natural smile which also causes your eyes to narrow. When I smile my nose crunches up a bit, too. This kind of a smile is genuine. Try both fake and genuine smiles to experience the difference. The genuine one feels good.
When I was a young girl I used to spend summers traveling in a trailer to the east coast with my grandparents. I was a grumpy riser who woke up with a frown on my face most mornings. My grandad would have none of it. One morning he told me I had smile before I did anything else. So I could get on my with day I complied with his request. I forced a big one. And I felt better. I started to laugh. I've never forgotten this lesson from my grandad and have used it often in my life since that summer whenever I want to lift my spirits and feel better.
Smiling is radical. And contagious! And happy making.
5. Do walking meditation.
Walking meditation is a wonderful way of practicing mindfulness which is a great frame-of-mind shifter. It is also very simple to do and very grounding. Before your start your walk, which can take anywhere from five to twenty minutes, or more if you want it to, take three or four nice deep breaths. Become aware of the ground beneath your feet. While you are walking allow your focus to stay with your feet. Experience what they are experiencing, whatever that may be. Feel their rythmn, the texture and sensation of the ground beneath you, the stone you just stepped on, the hardness of the concrete. Just stay in the present moment with your experience without analysis or judgment, becoming aware of any thoughts that arise in your mind, then let them go.
Make this practice a regular part of your routine.
There. Meditation without having to sit still on your bum. :) Happy making!
6. Take up a hobby and make time for it.
Often our hobby, the thing we choose to do simply because we love to do it and not because we are required to or are getting paid to do it, is directly connected to the song of our soul. Hobbies bring us into a world where we lose track of time and feel happy. This is present moment awareness. Another form of meditation!
Whenever I feel bummed out or stressed I pick up my crochet hook and, from my vast yarn collection, (yes... the one with the most yarn when she dies wins!!!), grab a skein and create something. I ALWAYS feel better.
A hobby need not be extravagant. My husband collects rocks. He spends many happy hours finding them, sorting them into various colour and type groupings, then placing them into mandalas and inukshuk structures that he creates. He glows with delight after an afternoon of rock hounding. And it's totally free. :)
What do you like to do? What activity makes you lose track of time? These are clues to things that make your soul sing and I encourage you to make time in your life for such nourishing, happy making activities.
7. Practice gratitude.
Last but not least is counting your blessings. When you focus on the things in your life that are cause for gratitude, you focus on the good, which puts you into a good frame of mind and opens you up to receive more happiness into your life. Focusing on the things that are not going well serves to put you in a negative mindset. That is not to say that there isn't a time and a place for taking a look at things that aren't going a well as they could in your life. The key is to do this in moderation and not to dwell on them with a "poor me" attitude.
I encourage you to take a few minutes each day to express your gratitude for the good things that have happened and the good people you have around you. Step into this abundance mindset each day and you open the door to a great deal of happiness.
What, you might be asking, has this all got to do with psychic mediumship? Everything. If you are going be a medium, be a HAPPY medium. :)
I send my heartfelt gratitude to each and everyone one of you reading this. Thank you!
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