Mediumship burnout. It happens.
Not only are you as a medium dealing with the spirit world, which takes a tremendous amount of energy, you are also interacting with other human beings who are often in the midst of the grieving process or in some kind of personal turmoil, which is the usually the reason that they have come to have a session with you. Being in the presence of others in a state of turmoil or grief takes a tremendous amount of energy.
If you don't adopt sound strategies for dealing with all of this, mediumship burnout can and likely will happen to you at some point.
Mediums by their very nature are over-givers. It's why many of you have a hard time maintaining healthy boundaries and practicing a good regimen of self care. You are so busy caring for others you barely even consider that you need to do anything for yourself.
Case in point: Me. Writing this article. It's Friday afternoon and I've got to have this darn thing done so I can send it out in my weekly newsletter on Sunday. Which really happens on Saturday behind the scenes. I have had a crazy overly busy several months that shows no signs of slowing down anytime soon and so I haven't gotten around to writing this article until today. And... I'm tired.
So I push push push... I've got to get this article written or my readers will not have an article in their inbox on Sunday. Got to stay with it...
Then I read back what I've written so far. I YAWN and then yawn again because I'm so frickin tired. I want to relax and have a bath with my favorite essential oils but it's only 12:30 pm and I can't just stop in the middle of an article that I am trying to finish to do something so frivolous as having a bath in the middle of the day....
The Symptoms of Mediumship Burnout:
Mediumship burnout can manifest through the appearance of a number of symptoms including:
Mediumship burnout is not limited to only those people who do client readings. It can happen to folks who are on the mediumship development journey though not yet practicing professionally as well.
How then does a developing or practicing medium smooth out her potentially bumpy road so as to steer clear of burnout?
1. Stop overdoing it
How many readings can you comfortably do in a day? At which point do you feel over extended or that you are overdoing it?
That answer to this question is entirely your own. You don't need to worry about keeping pace with another medium's daily readings numbers pace. If one reading a day is all that you feel comfortable, whole and healthy doing then so be it. I say hurrah for you for figuring that out.
If you are doing more readings than you feel comfortable with then... do less. Stop overdoing it.
The same goes for you folks who are in the midst of your development journey. I have interacted with many learning mediums who simply overdo and over extend themselves thinking it will do them good. Thinking that they are supposed to do that.
They meditate for hours a day, attend every development circle they can find, pile on classes and workshops plus make sure they have researched then acquired the latest tarot deck to add to their ever growing collection which now stands at 29 and then rush off to the local gemstone emporium to make sure they have the most recent recommended crystals to open their chakras, their third eye, and...
Did you get tired just reading those last two paragraphs because I sure got tired writing them.
Those same novice mediums then write me to ask why they are not getting anything from spirit. Why it seems that their gifts have up and disappeared.
You don't need to do it all, have it all, read it all, go to it all. Pacing is important on the mediumship development journey. If you're doing it all and then find that your gifts seem to have up and left you stranded your guides are telling you something.
And that is 'stop overdoing it..."
(And why am I including tarot deck hyper-accumulation and crystal hording in all of this. Because... energy baby. That all holds the energy of overdoing it. )
2. Focus on the joyful aspects of mediumship not just on your progress.
Ok so why the heck are you doing this anyway? Hopefully because to is a joyful path is at least part of your reason for being a medium.
Not everyone gets to do what you do. Being an advocate for the spirit world is wondrous and joyful work. When I am finished a reading for someone I celebrate the fact that I met and got to connect with their friends and family - in the spirit world of course - as well.
How cool is that??
Reconnect with this joyful aspect of mediumship everyday.
Pssst... If you don't feel this way about your mediumship then perhaps it's time for a change...?)
3. Eat well. Get good sleep. Exercise.
Ok I admit that I'm pretty damn bad at this one.
I do get good sleep - mostly because I can't keep my eyes open at the end of the day - but also because I know and honor that it 's good for me. Especially with the pace that I have to keep some days.
But I do have a tendency to indulge my less than positive food cravings and eat things that I shouldn't. When I self correct and eat better I notice a big fat difference in how I feel overall. You are what you eat.
I also sit at my desk for extraordinarily long periods of time. My ass gets sore and I end up feeling like crap. I get it into my head that if I'm not sitting at my desk teaching, writing and doing sessions, then I'm not working and... I should be working.
You too? Yeah, I thought so.
I have found that if I tear myself away from my desk and go do only 5 minutes of gentle yoga I am ready to go again and I feel so much better!
So whatever all of this means for you do it. Eat better if you need to (and you probably do...), hydrate by drinking delicious teas or water, get good rest and do a little exercise, some yoga, take a short walk, do some qi gong, whatever feels good to you.
(off to do 5 minutes of yoga now...)
(ok I did some yoga - 10 minutes! - and I'm back - feeling much better I might add...!)
4. Take down time doing something other than the things involved in doing or learning mediumship.
When you are on this journey you don't have to be all focused on all mediumship all the time.
That leads to burnout...
Make sure that you include doing other things that you enjoy in each day. Take mini sabbaticals from all things mediumship. I find that people learning mediumship will put the other things that they enjoy doing on the shelf so that they can put ALL theIr focus ONLY on mediumship.
Take a mini sabbatical from your mediumship every day.
Thank you. :)
5. Measure your growth by looking backward rather than forward.
You're on the journey and you want to get better at your mediumship. That is totally natural, normal and noble.
However, when you put your focus on where you're not at or dwell on what you haven't achieved in your mediumship you start a big slide down a slippery slope pretty damn fast. You overwhelm yourself with pressure and thoughts of failure.
Instead take a look backwards. When you reflect back on where you were when you were starting out you get to see how far you have actually come as a medium. It makes where you are now something pretty special. And it should, because it is!
You get to celebrate your growth rather than moan and berate yourself for what you think you haven't yet done or achieved on your journey.
Moaning = pull your vibe down = BIG potential for burnout.
Celebrating you and your growth = high vibe = good! (plus steering clear of burnout!)
6. Develop and uphold good healthy boundaries for your client readings.
This can be one of the biggest reasons for burnout - a total lack of or a need for stronger boundaries with your clients. However, this is one of the most important things that you can do not only for yourself but also for your clients. Yes, I said that, for your clients, too. You're not good to anyone as a medium when you don't have healthy boundaries in your work.
If you are actively doing readings you should be establishing and making sure that your clients are informed of your terms, policies and your reading preferences right up front before they even book a reading with you.
Many mediums feel as if they must say yes to everyone who comes their way seeking a reading. Some mediums look on this as good practice or even that this is what is expected of all mediums. That it's our job to be all things to all people because we're here to serve.
Please adjust your thinking on this one right now. You are not required to serve everyone - it is simply impossible to do that. Your job is to be you and attract the clients that are the best ones for you as a medium and what you do as a medium.
So establish your own terms - things like how much you charge for a reading, how long your readings will be, when you will (and won't) do readings, how you accept payment, etc. This is all very important information that you need to get clear on yourself or it will impact your business and eventually lead to burnout as the demands on your time and energy pile up.
Then, and most importantly you need to honor and uphold your boundaries. If you consistently choose not to honor your own boundaries you will attract clients that will be happy to take advantage of you.
Stick to your reading duration by wrapping your readings up on time (...no you don't have to go 15, 20 or 30 minutes longer than the length of your reading. You don't owe that to your clients.)
Set a price for your sessions that makes sense financially, feels good to you, that honors you, all you've invested into your journey, your time and that puts a smile on your face.
Then honor that price and charge it. You will have people who are looking for cheaper readings asking for discounts or even freebies. You may want to comply with this type of request on occasion or in certain circumstances. That's ok. But treating your business as if you have to comply because it's expected by certain people diminishes your worth.
And you are worth more than that.
If you are currently working towards practicing as a professional medium set yourself up on the right foot. Set your terms before you start your business and stick to your guns. You can go back and jiggle things later if necessary (and the right thing for you).
I hope these suggestions are helpful for y'all!
PS... I stopped writing and went ahead and took that bath. And you still got your weekly article! Amazing how, even with me doing a little self care that still happened... :)
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