Sooo... you have identified that you have "the gift". You're voraciously reading psychic books, attending a development circle, scouring the internet for blogs written by psychics and mediums (btw.. welcome... its nice to have you here!). You're meditating, journaling, practicing. You're doing it...
If you are doing any of that stuff above yet you are feeling weird, uncomfortable, or afraid that the un-psychic people in your life will think you are out to lunch, then you are living in, shall we say...
...a psychic closet.
You are allowing yourself to be held back on a very important level.
Simply put you are not owning your woo-woo shit.
I am here to tell you that you need to own your woo-woo shit.
Because it is an awesomely amazing part of you!
"Owning my woo-woo shit is going to be easy... Right?" I can hear some of you asking. Maybe not. Especially if you have a lot of people in your life who are what I affectionately refer to as "holder-backers" (HB). Those people who need you to continue to be something that you no longer are, so that they can feel comfortable in their own lives. If you have accumulated a lot of HBs in your life then, easy it probably won't be.
But it is still necessary.
So what the heck do you do? What is the best way to go about owning that woo-woo shit that is so awesomely a part of you?
You need to do three things...
1. Make peace with and embrace who you are:
This is an important first step. If you are not at peace with who you are how do you expect others to be? Just do it. You have a gift that you can develop to enhance your life and maybe even the lives of others. That is something special. Embrace that. Embrace your woo-woo. Be proud and happy that this is who you are. You will probably be surprised when you do embrace and then reveal your light how many others around you will feel comfortable revealing their 'weirdness' to you.
So go ahead... embrace your woo-woo and shine your light for yourself and others!
2. Get comfortable with discomfort:
No other way to say this. Your development journey will have its fair share of discomfort, so get used to it. What we resist persists so cozy up to that discomfort or it will never fall away. Make friends with it.
You can't let discomfort stop you because it will be common in your new reality. When you attend your first psychic development workshop you will feel uncomfortable. Do your first (and second and third...) reading you'll feel uncomfortable. Do your first live mediumship demonstration and you'll feel really really uncomfortable. Tell other people what you are up to and it will feel uncomfortable.
It goes with the territory. Discomfort is a part of the growth experience. If you are not feeling some discomfort then you are not growing much. Plain and simple.
So welcome and let in the discomfort on this journey, little by little. When your best friend asks you what you did last night let her know. Tell her you were doing that practice reading or attending your development circle. She loves you, right? If she does she'll be happy for you. She might not agree with what you are doing or be into it herself. But she will still love you. Otherwise, why would she be your bestie?
Part of the discomfort going forward may be having to move on and away from HBs. If anyone in your life is trying to put you down because of your new path or make you feel bad in any way because of what you want to pursue it is likely time to disconnect from that person. Try to compassionately explain what you're doing and why it is important to you. If that doesn't meet with a change on the part of the HB, then don't settle. Settling assures that you will never own your gifts or allow them to flourish. Gut wrenching though it may be it is necessary to move away from those who want to hold you back so that you can make room for more compatible, supportive people to be able to show up in your life.
Which brings me to...
3. Build a community of woo-woo peeps just like you:
Being part of a community of woo-woos like you can be nourishing and very empowering. They are going through the same things as you, facing similar challenges and slumps. They GET you! Being with other woo-woos helps you build your confidence and strength, gives you a place to share your growth and successes and stay the course when the going gets tough (see Step 2!).
Connecting with just any woo-woos, though, won't do. It is not productive or conducive to your development to surround yourself with people who are ego focused or so competitive they are always trying to best or out do you. Your growth will not benefit by hanging around with people who gossip about others in the woo-woo community, back bite or try to pull others down in any way. Move on and away from these people. They may be woo-woos but they are also HBs. Surround yourself with caring, encouraging, uplifting folks who want to see you develop to your full potential. Who want to help you shine. Who want you to be all that you can be!
So there you go. Get going. Own your woo-woo shit!
Hi, I'm Clare...
...and I'm a mentor whose passion is helping budding mediums go from feeling weird, worried and overwhelmed to feeling “wow this is so damn cool!”
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