Ah yes... I love a good age-old debate. So this week I answer a reader's question about that...
Can anyone be a medium with hard work and practice or do you have to be born with the talent? I have heard conflicting statements from other mediums.
I ask because one medium I follow said that although we can all be sensitive to messages from guides and deceased loved ones, unless you are born a medium, you will not become one. Is this true?
Also, is it possible to be born a medium and not have known it? To suddenly one day (48 years LOL) discover you have some talent?
First of all I’d like to tackle part one of Dawn’s question:
"One medium I follow said that although we can all be sensitive to messages from guides and deceased loved ones, unless you are born a medium, you will not become one."
My one word answer: Poppycock.
Let’s start with a baseline truth.
We are all spirit. Spirit is within us and all around us. Each of us is essentially ‘spirit’ individualized. Spirit is inherent to our nature.
Some folks are quite conscious of their inherent spirit nature. Some are in the process of awakening to their spirit nature, while still others are not yet in touch with this fundamental aspect of their nature.
It doesn’t matter where anyone is on that spectrum, the inherent nature of each and every one of us is still spirit.
It is via this timeless, unchanging spirit within us that we connect with the spirit world around us.
Our ancient ancestors were once profoundly connected with both their own spirit nature and with the world of spirit all around them.
Unfortunately, over time, there has been a purposeful and concerted effort on the part of some forces in our world to eradicate both our knowledge of our spirit nature and our connection with the spirit world which is why the natural connection to both has been long lost to so many of us.
We have forgotten about this part of ourselves.
However, we are, at this time, collectively reconnecting with this aspect of ourselves more and more everyday.
This is very very good news!
So, for the sake of a “putting a finer point on it” illustration, let’s have some fun here and pretend that you are born with legs but you completely forget that you have them so you function as if without them.
Then one day you wake up to the realization that you have legs. Oh happy day! But because you have never used them they have atrophied and as such are not very useful to you at this point. You’ll need to figure out how they work, exercise them and build up their strength in order to be able to use them.
So you set about to do just that.
Then someone comes along and says “Well, you may have legs with which to walk, but unless you were born a walker you won’t be able to be one.”
Sounds kind of silly, right?
You’ve got legs but unless you were ‘born to walk’ then you won’t be able to?
That’s all that a medium does. She uses her ‘legs’ (insert her inherent spirit) to ‘walk’ (insert communicate with spirit).
You can do the very same with your inherent spirit.
Therefore, saying that one is “born a medium” is redundant.
We’re all spirit, born with the ability to connect with spirit.
So why do some mediums cling to the belief that you must be born a medium or else you can’t be one?
Well… the “have, have-not” belief can rear it’s ugly head just about anywhere. And it does. Even in the mediumship community.
Several of the teachers with whom I studied held this belief and enjoyed making sure that the class understood that they - the teachers - were natural mediums born with ‘the gift’.
Then this would happen: half of the class would sink into doubt and start to question whether they had ‘the gift’ and the other half were cocksure that they had to be ‘born mediums’.
Why purposefully interject doubt into the study of mediumship? Doubt is one of the biggest obstacles for many if not most of us in developing our connection with spirit.
Who does it serve to make statements like this to anyone who is feeling the call to explore her spirit and her connection with spirit and maybe even become a medium?
No one and nothing. Except, perhaps, the egos of those who hold fast to the belief that they are a born medium.
Now, perhaps what these mediums might actually mean when they are asserting that “unless you are born a medium then you will not become one” is that you will not become a professional or a practicing medium unless you are born one.
This is a different thing.
This is where hard work, practice, dedication and staying the course come in. Not everyone has the desire, patience or the perseverence to do all of the things it takes to get to the place where he or she can competently serve others in a mediumship practice. Or to get up day after day, week after week on a platform and bring through messages from spirit.
We are all equipped with the legs to walk or run but do we all have the desire and the dedication to stay the course to become an Olympic speed walker or runner?
You’ve got legs and if that’s what you want to do with them and you’re willing and determined to do what it takes to get there, you will.
You’ve got spirit inside of you so, if you are willing to work, practice and have the determination to do what it takes to become a practicing medium, you will.
You’ll unlock that gift within you.
Now to part two of Dawn’s question:
“Also, is it possible to be born a medium and not have known it? To suddenly one day (48 years LOL) discover you have some talent?”
As I have mentioned above many folks are still in the process of awakening to their spirit nature and still unaware that they, too, have what it takes to be a medium if they so choose.
Awakening to this truth can happen at any point in one’s life. Some awaken earlier in life and others later in life.
When it happens does not matter.
What does matter is that you cultivate your relationship with spirit in your own unique and special way.
What does matter is that you believe in you.
What does matter is that, if you want to become a medium, you have clarity of purpose, work your ‘muscles’ and take the necessary steps to follow through with your dream and unlock your gift.
Don’t give up your sovereignty, your power to achieve what you want to achieve or allow anyone else’s beliefs to hold you back.
If you are going to be communicating with spirit you need to know a thing or two about maintaining good healthy boundaries with the spirit world.
(Even if you're not going to be communicating with spirit it's still a good idea...)
If you are working with spirit in any capacity you need to establish appropriate boundaries.
You want to be safe.
You want to feel comfortable.
You want to love what you are doing.
You want to be kickass. (Kickass mediums always set good boundaries with the spirit world.)
You want to save yourself unnecessary intrusion and frustration by getting this sorted out at the beginning of your development.
Setting good and solid boudaries with the spirit world is part of putting the proper foundation into place for doing mediumship.
New and developing mediums show or, in other words, illuminate to the spirit world in a certain way.
It's in a way that says to spirit "Hey...over here...! I'm a medium! I can talk with y'all. I can hear, see and feel you!"
And this is exactly what many many many spirits have been waiting for.
Someone in the physical world who they can finally make a connection with.
Someone who will be able to help them get a message through to someone they love who is still in the physical world.
So they get pretty excited and can start showing up at all hours of the day and night trying to come through to you in all manner of ways.
Some good. Some not so good.
After I sustained the head trauma that blew my circuits wide open I sat down with a wonderful medium who helped me understand what the heck was going on.
She pointed out that upon impact (I was hit very hard from behind in a skiing accident) I opened up so completely and all in an instant that, to the spirit world, I appeared like a blip of bright light on a blank radar screen.
They saw that blip and said "Hey guys... Over there! She can see us!"
It was like being the only kid on the playground that brought a snack for recess and all the other kids swarm that kid because they want a piece of that action.
Overwhelming and way too much...
Feeling, hearing and seeing the presence of spirit can be a very exciting thing. It can also be very exhausting. And crazy making.
When I first opened up after my accident I was overrun with visitations from the spirit world. I had no idea what a boundary with the spirit world was let alone know how to even set one properly.
Spirit knew this and came whenever they wanted.
Good thing I eventually learned how to set the proper boundaries.
How to set boundaries with the spirit world:
Many folks operate under the misconception that the spirit world is different because you can't "see" it the same as you can the physical world. So how the heck can you even set boundaries with it?
Spirit is excited and happy to connect, however, if you set your boundaries they will absolutely respect them.
You deserve to be respected and honored in all areas of your life, including in your connection with the spirit world.
Your boundaries with the spirit world will be a mirror of your personal boundaries, the ones that you set in your personal life.
You set boundaries with the spirit world pretty much the same way you set boundaries with other people in your life.
You let them know what is ok and what is not and then you hold firm to that.
But, and this is important, you must be in alignment with the boundaries that you do set with the spirit world.
Because spirit can tell when you're not actually in alignment with a boundary and know whether or not you really mean to set the boundary you are setting.
Being in alignment with a boundary means that you mean what you say. You are not setting a boundary that secretly, deep inside you it would be OK if spirit chose not to respect it.
I have mentored and worked with folks who had all kinds of things happening in their lives coming at them from the spirit world.
They expressed that they would like these things to stop so we worked on setting the proper boundaries with the spirit world.
And these things did stop for most of them. But not for others.
Because the other folks enjoyed the drama of the experiences that they were having with the spirit world. They didn't really want those things to stop.
And the spirit world knew this and kept right on with their inappropriate behavior.
So... you can see why it is important to be completely aligned with the boundaries you set.
Spirits are a lot like kids. And animals. They can see right through you.
Lets take a look at what types of boundaries to set with the spirit world.
If you are going to be working with spirit as a medium they need to know what is OK with you in a connection with them. Things like:
And it is good to tackle this from both the "what's ok" and "what's not ok" perspectives.
For example these are some of my "when" boundaries with spirit:
You can see how I have addressed the "when" with both the "yes's" and "no's" for me.
You need to take some time to consider what is OK with you and what is not in the realm of your connection with spirit. This, coupled with your previous, likely less than perfect experiences will help you create your boundaries for spirit connection.
You can do this by making a list of the things that are Ok for you and not OK for you with regards to the spirit world.
On your list be sure to include:
I have also designed a very thorough Developing Medium's Guide to Setting Strong Boundaries with the Spirit World Workbook to help you figure out and put your spirit connection boundaries into place. Highly recommended! (I offer that for purchase for $4.44 HERE.)
So there you go. Go set your boundaries then relax and enjoy your connection with spirit.
Let me know how it goes.
Of all the questions that I get asked, I get asked several versions of this one quite a lot:
"Clare... it has taken me quite a long time to make a connection with my main spirit guide but at my development circle last month I finally did!
He is a tall gorgeous indian chief with a fabulous feather head dress! He has come three weeks straight. I'm over the moon with spirit guide joy!
Then, last week, when I called on him, instead of my indian chief showing up I saw a monk in red and yellow robes. I couldn't believe it...
What happened to my indian chief? Why is there now a monk in his place? Is this the same guide? It felt like the same guide but he didn't look at all the same to me.
Clare, please tell me... where did my indian chief go?
Dispirited About Spirit Guides"
Here's my answer...
I feel your pain. Once my protector guide, who was usually a tall, 16th century spanish conquistador sporting a six pack decided to show up as a Scottish bagpiper in a kilt.
And I don't even like bagpipes! I'm also not too fond of kilts after 5 years wearing a uniform at all girls Catholic high school...
I felt the same loving protective energy present with me, but, holy cow, that Scottish guy sure did not look the same as my Spanish conquistador at all.
Wanting to get to the bottom of all of this I decided I would take the bull by the horns and ask my spirit guides what the heck was going on here.
And here is what I was told:
One of the most important relationships that you can have is the one that you create and nurture with your spirit guides.
However, what spirit guides actually are is largely misunderstood by us human peeps.
Spirit guides can take on many forms, looks and guises. You can perceive them in so many ways including ancestors, animals, wise beings such as an indian chief or monk, ascended masters, mythological creatures, angels, friends, or even a fictionalized character like Merlin the sorcerer from the Arthurian legend stories, or even Shrek for example.
The truth is they are both all these things and not any of these things.
Yes, you read that right.
Gotta love paradox!
Your spirit guides forms and guises are actually more of a representation of you and your own intentions as you move through your life. Just as your intentions can shift, change, grow and blossom, so, too, can the guises of your spirit guides.
For all you folks who have been working with the same guide for years and years... no worries! The current guise of your guides works perfectly for you! That is great news.
For those of you who find that the shape, guise or form of your guides seems to change here and there or even all the time... again, no worries! This is great news as well.
What are spirit guides?
What spirit guides actually are is wise non-physical energy that you are able to, if you so choose, open up a communication with.
Regardless of whether you open up a communication with them or not, they are and have always been with you, guiding you along, helping you on your life travels and interjecting a little (or a lot of!) wisdom here and there.
That you know they are there is, frankly, irrelevant to their participation in your life.
They are there anyway. :)
Having a conscious connection with them, however, is pretty damn cool. And useful. And awesome!
This non-physical / spirit guide energy exists both outside of and within you.
Think your higher self / inner wisdom.
Think universal wisdom.
Now think a blending of the two of these pure and awesome sources of guidance and wisdom as coming together in the form of your spirit guide(s).
The constant of this non-physical energy / spirit guide / wisdom source - regardless of what form it takes or if that form shifts, morphs or changes - is that it feels good. It feels safe. And you have a strong sense that he, she or it, whatever the case may be, is a loving guiding presence (or loving guiding group depending on how many guides you work with or are aware are around you.)
So, if one of your guides seems to have gone ahead and changed its form or guise on you tune into that energy.
Does it feel like a safe, good, loving and guiding presence like your other guide was?
If so... then YAY!
The new guise may represent something or have a deeper meaning in the scheme of your life so consider that guise through the lens of being a symbol or a sign from the universe. Take a look at how that symbol fits for you and / or what it means to you.
There will likely be a shit ton of information waiting for you in that if you choose to move into a deeper analysis.
The new guise may also be in the result a shift in your vibration or be a match for a change on your life path requiring a new way through which you are to experience the energy and the information from your spirit guide.
You might even be tapping into a higher vibrational energy!
Believe me once I stopped freaking out about my spanish conquistador protector guide morphing into a kilt wearing bag pipe playing scottish fellow and shot for the deeper meaning of that image in my life I was ALL OVER it with joy that Cameron McAllister (yes he has a name, I gave it to him and that's it!) had shown up.
Both guises felt good, familiar, protective and wise. It was a win win for me all over the place!
So you see the non-physical energy that our guides are made up of is one great big wise source from which all spirit guides come. It doesn't matter what they look like, be it angel, nun, horse, rainbow, etc. It's all coming in from one wonderful, awesome source of loving universal guidance and wisdom.
The guise or form our guides take is simply our way of interpreting their energy and, frankly, makes it much easier for us to tap into that guiding energy again once we have made the connection with them.
For me that might be a big green kindly giant that sits up in a huge tree that can actually hold a great big kindly green giant.
For you that might be an angel with the sweetest smile.
Both are fabulous!
Both come from the same most awesome source of loving universal wisdom. And, as such will never steer you wrong. :)
I hope that helps!
Several summers ago my husband and I were house-sitting for someone we had just recently met.
One afternoon while there I was sitting quietly, doing some writing which sometimes puts me into a slightly altered state.
Out of the blue I became acutely aware of the strong smell of pot (yes, marijuana) coming from the one of the bedrooms.
I went immediately to investigate, thinking I was going to catch my husband in a naughty act.
Alas, when I got into the bedroom there was no one nor anything to be found there. Except the smell of pot. Clear as day in that bedroom.
There was no one else in the home at the time. My husband and I were staying by ourselves on the property which was located in a remote area well removed from any possibility of others smoking close by outside or near the house.
Feeling very curious now, I explored the whole room: under the bed, the closets, I even went outside to see if there was perhaps someone enjoying a doobie nearby that might be the potential source for this smell.
Nada, zip, zilch.
At this point my husband came into the bedroom wondering what the heck I was doing.
He couldn't smell a thing. And that's saying a lot because he has an amazing sense of smell.
It was then that I realized that I was probably dealing with a spirit experience. I was being sent an identifying smell from a spirit person who was hanging around.
Once I made this realization the smell immediately went away.
The ability to receive perceptions from spirit via one's sense of smell is known as clear smelling or clairalience. Spirit can and will send all kinds of odors, smells and scents in an attempt to help identify who he or she is and provide other evidential information. The medium receives this type of subtle smell perception via her clairalience.
Clairalience is also known by several other names including clairscent, clairgustance (which is actually clear tasting however some mediums lump these two clairs together), and clairodor.
I have received all kinds of smells during mediumship readings, everything from perfume, to cigar smoke, to popcorn, to bleach. Each time the smell has been an important part of the identification process of the communicating spirit.
For example, the bleach came through from a spirit man who had worked as a cleaner in a large factory. He used bleach every single day to wash down huge stainless steel drums and he would go home smelling like bleach. Though it didn't smell very good to me, it made perfect sense to the man the spirit had come to talk to.
Clairalience can provide a great deal of information about a spirit with a single scent or smell, making it a powerful evidential tool in a medium's skill set.
Clairalience can be experienced in a number of ways: via the internal sense of smell, much like clairvoyance (internal seeing) or clairaudience (internal hearing). In other words you are smelling the scent subjectively. Sometimes clairalience can also be an objective experience, one in which the medium can actually smell the odor or scent through her physical sense of smell.
This was my experience with the pot episode I shared with you above. I could actually physically smell it which is why I went on a tear looking for the source of the smell.
Clairalience can also be experienced in a very subtle way as the medium having the feeling that something does not "smell right" or smells "fishy" or "off". This often goes hand in hand with a warning or caution in a reading or a spirit communication.
Sometimes clairalience that comes through the physical sense of smell will also be experienced by others who are present, meaning they will smell it too. My husband and I have had this experience. That last house we lived in had a spirit man who would come by. He chain smoked cigarettes when he was alive. There were several times when both my husband and I, even when we were each in different rooms, could smell strong cigarette smoke in the house (neither one of us smokes). This is one of the ways that we both knew he was around.
I did a mediumship demonstration once where I was communicating with the spirit of a woman who sent me the strong smell of lilac perfume. It so happened that her niece was in the audience and she could smell the lilac perfume clear as day as well. We were the only two in the room who were having this clairalience experience.
Other times the medium will be the only one in the room that will experience the smell.
People who have recently lost a loved one will often inadvertently have clairalience experiences. I have crossed paths with many a person who could smell their recently deceased grandfather's pipe smoke or the smell of the oatmeal cookies that Aunt Sally used to make for the family. Often this experience is cast off as a coincidence, when it is very likely the gateway to a possible communication from the spirit loved one associated with the smell.
A very interesting thing about clairalience is that it is often experienced in formal seance situations as what is known as "group clairalience". This means that the people attending the seance all experience the smell being sent by sprit at the same time, as a group.
As a developing medium, if you don't already possess the gift of clairalience, or have not yet had the experience of clairlience during psychic work or spirit communication, you can develop it through exercises and practice.
You can do this by practicing bumping up your "smells" database by smelling all kinds of things including flowers, essential oils, and a multitude of other smells and scents around you. When you do smell an odor or scent, stop and take note, really taking in the experience with the whole of your being.
In other words... practice your smelling! :)
Doing this regularly helps you gradually open up, stretch and exercise your clairalience muscle. You can also practice smelling different scents, odors and smells then recreating those in your internal world in your mind the way that you would a sound with clairaudience practice, or an image with clairvoyance practice.
You can also ask spirit to send you an impression in the form of a smell. Then wait and see (smell!) what you get from spirit.
Spirit tends to use your own natural gifts and the experiences that you have had in your life, to communicate through you, so if you are someone who has had a lot of olfactory experiences or you have a very sensitive or pronounced sense of smell you are a good candidate for developing your clairalience.
You might want to consider developing your clairalience because this little known but very powerful clair, when impressed upon by spirit, can add much more nuance and depth to your mediumship readings leaving no room for doubt as to who is coming to speak through you!
Now back to my little house sitting story:
When my new friend, the owner of the home, came back I gingerly approached the topic letting her know I had smelled pot in the bedroom and did she know where it might have come from?
She smiled and said that no one except her brother ever smoked pot in or near the house. When he would come to visit he'd sneak off into his bedroom to have a toot every now and then.
She said this while pointing to the bedroom from which the pot smell had come.
She added that her brother had passed away a few years ago.
And that there were times when she actually felt she could sense his spirit presence in her home.
How 'bout that... :)
Today I am answering a reader's question:
I am trying to get going as a medium and I felt as though in the beginning it was coming so natural. Now, I feel like, I am just blocked. I am meditating every day. I am using crystals. I am reading every book I can get my hands on. Literally in the beginning, I was getting messages....now, I feel like nothing. I am even doubting who I thought my guides were. Any thoughts or guidance? Any help you could give would be great ! Thanks !
PS: I think you site is wonderful !
Great question, Jen! Let's sort this out, shall we? ;)
First of all you need to know that what you are experiencing is quite normal.
There is a certain cycle to mediumship development. I describe that cycle in three stages here:
The 3 Stages of Mediumship Development:
Stage 1: Beginner's mind: Excitement and enthusiasm
Welcome to mediumship development stage 1. It is soooo exciting to know that you have mediumship gifts that you can develop.
You are filled with great enthusiasm during this stage. You are excited, and jumping in full swing wanting to learn and absorb as much as you possibly can.
You are also in what I call Beginner's mind. You have no idea what to expect.
You are open.
As the Zen teacher Suzuki Roshi said: "In the beginner's mind there are many possibilities..."
This is the stage where you really pop. Especially, I might add, if you have a natural resonance for mediumship and are choosing to develop your abilities because you are feeling called to do so.
I love working with students who know nothing about mediumship and are starting their development from ground zero.
They have no idea what they are doing. So they can do no wrong!
They are so excited to learn. They see spirit over here. They hear spirit over there. They receive so many wonderful messages. It all feels wonderful and so natural. They are discovering that they actually are a medium!
This is the awesome flow of beginner's mind.
And it feels so good.
But it can't - and won't last forever. Even though we think or expect that it should.
Which brings us to...
Stage 2: Blocks, doubts, limitations
After so much enthusiasm and beginner's success you often hit a wall...
Where you were getting messages - often quite easily - you now are not.
You feel blocked. Stiffled. Like you've lost any ability or traction that you thought you'd gained in Stage 1.
You may also experience doubt about yourself and your mediumship development.
You may start questioning everything from your ability to communicate with spirit, to your connection with your guides, to, well, everything.
This is totally normal. Totally natural. Totally part of the journey.
Instead of pushing against this, do your very best to embrace it. This is the time for you to step back for awhile and integrate the experiences that you have already been having.
It is a time to process and reflect on these experiences.
And, though I know this is hard to hear, this time is just as important as Stage 1.
It may feel as if your abilities have been taken away. They haven't.
It may feel as if your spirit guides have gone AWOL. They haven't.
Your abilities are taking a little break, slowing down or are even temporarily inactive - in a period of dormancy, as it were.
Your guides are there, still caring, still guiding, but also giving you the space that you need right now.
This time is best used to drop resistance, regroup, relax, contemplate, write in your journal, meditate without a goal in mind. To just be.
And be cool with where you are right now.
It is also a great time to read, learn, and gently gather more wisdom for your journey.
It is not a time to scramble and push yourself to try to "reclaim" your "lost abilities".
Because you haven't lost anything. Have patience. All is just fine.
The duration of Stage two is different for everyone. For some it is days, for others weeks or even months.
Some folks will completely walk away from their development during this stage. This possibility makes it an especially important time to reflect, meditate and contemplate what you are learning and where it all fits into your life.
Not that you need or should expect all the answers right away. The acts of reflection and contemplation will set something important in motion and the answers will arrive perfectly and exactly when they are meant to do so.
Be cool. You're you. You'll take your own time. Let it unfold.
Even famous, gifted British medium, Doris Stokes had a crisis of faith that resulted in her taking a number of years away from doing her mediumship. It even happens to the best of the best.
Stage 3: Deepening and Integration
Once you have moved through stage two, you come to what I call the Deepening and Integration stage.
This is where you get your juice back. Enthusiasm wriggles it's way back in.
You feel more positive about your development journey. You've learned some things during Stage 2 - about yourself, mediumship, the spirit world, patience - and you are ready to apply all of that in Stage 3.
You find yourself pulled towards the exact things - books, blogs, classes, mentoring, development circles, practice opportunities - that you need to help you deepen your development and integrate your experiences even more deeply.
Things start to gel for you and you start to see your mediumship development journey is the context of the greater whole of your life.
You approach your learning and practice with much greater confidence.
You start to apply techniques you've acquired and what you have learned to not only your mediumship but also your life as a whole.
You feel good about what you have chosen to do and uplifted at the prospect of using your mediumship to serve others in some way that is unique to you. You'll start to feel resonance with potentials and possibilities.
And there you go... mediumship development ups and downs distilled into three stages.
Remember that each of these stages is as important as the other.
Be wherever you are. Honor each stage as a valid and integral part of your journey.
Keep in mind that these stages are part of an ongoing cycle experienced by mediums. You will continue to move through, back and forth and between these three stages again and again on your mediumship journey.
It's all part of the deal. So cozy up!
We all want to be good at mediumship.
We all want to be "right".
We all strive to do the best we can do and be the best mediums we can be.
So today I'm going to throw that notion right (!) out the window.
What if I was to tell you (which means I will be telling you...) that wanting to be good, right, the best ever, actually gets in the way of your mediumship?
Stay with me here...
Successful mediumship absolutely depends on a clear and solid link with spirit.
It is our job as mediums to do everything we can to establish and maintain that solid link.
We meditate. We prepare. We set our highest and best intention for our work.
Then we get up there on that platform or sit across from our client and...
... we want to get it right. And for some of us - many of us, actually - the thought of needing to be right or fearing we'll be wrong - gets in the way of what we are actually there to do.
We set ourselves up to analyze and judge the importance of what we are going to say. We worry that we are going to be judged for what comes through.
Why is this a problem for our mediumship?
Because we are thinking about ourselves.
When we are concerned about how we are going to do in a reading or platform demonstration we're in our logical mind. We are coming at things from the personal perspective.
This is not the place from which we make a strong link with spirit.
Or any link with spirit for that matter. That's the part of our brain that actually works to stifle our connection with the spirit world.
To make the strong link with spirit we need to be in our "spirit" mind. Yes we have one of those!
The seat of our spirit mind is in our imaging side of the brain.
Our right brain.
Spirit uses our imagination to communicate with us.
Whenever we say "Oh gosh, what if I'm gonna sound stupid?" or even "Wow, that was a hit. I must be all that and a piece of cheese as a medium!", we are ingrained in our logical mind.
We've gone and jumped out of our spirit mind.
Simply put we are in our own way. Worrying we'll be wrong. Feeling all puffed up because we were "right".
When we're in our own way we are not linking with spirit. We are actually blocking our receptivity to spirit and our perceptions of what spirit is sending to us.
For the flow with spirit to be full throttle we need to get out of our own way.
How do we do that?
Let me give you my 3 steps for getting out of your own way and ensuring a more pure and direct connection with spirit during mediumship:
1. Enter into your mediumship with an attitude of openness and curiosity:
Prior to doing mediumship readings set your intention to be open to all and everything that spirit sends to you.
Then become curious about it all.
This keeps you out of wondering if you'll be good or get it right.
If you slip back into wondering, then take yourself back into a place of curiosity about what the heck might happen.
Think thoughts like:
"Whatever will spirit show me today?"
"I wonder what the spirits will have to say to my client today?"
"I cannot wait to see what the spirit world has in store for me today!"
Children are naturally curious. And they get stuff from the spirit world all the time! Good, solid stuff. :)
2. During your readings recognize when you have stepped into your logical mind (left brain), then step back into your spirit mind (right brain).
Ok, I know that it's not as simple as right brain versus left brain and being able to turn one off and the other on at will. But if you understand how they tend to work, you are that much further ahead and able to apply it to your mediumship.
When you feel yourself headed into worry or fear, or feeling stupid, or like you are not getting anything, recognize that you have stepped into you left brain. Nip it in the bud - in other words, stop all that - and put your complete focus back on the spirit world. This will automatically take you back into your right brain and back into your connection with spirit ready to receive and perceive what the spirit world is sending you.
This takes practice. As with everything, this gets easier the more you do it.
You have to be ruthless with yourself. You cannot indulge yourself with self-centered thoughts such as "what if I'm wrong?" or "If I say this I'll sound stupid!"
You have to be vigilant, catch it, then get right back to the business of spirit.
3. Trust your experience.
Share exactly what you perceive no matter how it might sound coming out of your mouth.
You've got to be gutsy to do this. Muster up all the guts that you've got and fully trust the experience that you are having with spirit.
Trust is THE linchpin.
If spirit shows you a rainbow arching over a purple banana, trust that. Share it with the audience or your client.
Just as you have perceived it from spirit.
Don't let Mr. Left Brain talk you out of it.
So there you go.
Now go ahead... get out of your way. Let me know how it goes!
Beginning student mediums often want to know how they are supposed to distinguish what is coming in via their spiritual senses, their clairs, from what they might be "making up" or imagining.
This is where discernment, otherwise known as the ability to know the difference, comes in.
Mediums gradually develop the gift of discernment over time as they grow and develop their ability to communicate with spirit.
Which is wonderful! And oh so useful... :)
But it is still nice to have some idea how you can tell the difference in the earlier stages of your development.
Let's start by defining the difference between imagination and clairvoyance:
Imagination can be defined as:
Clairvoyance is defined as:
Thank you to several online dictionaries for these "formal" definitions. :)
So how can you know whether what you are seeing in your mind's eye is arising from your mind, itself via your imagination or coming in via your clairvoyance?
Well... honestly that is something that is different for each and everyone of us. How your imagination works may be different than how mine works. There are no cut and dry recipes or ways to make this determination. It is really more of a process of coming to know yourself and how your own mind works.
I can, however, share with you some overall qualitative differences between imagination and clairvoyance plus share an experience that I have, personal to me, that lets me know when my clairvoyance is at work. It may or may not be true or the same for you, but I'm hoping that it will help you on your own journey of self discovery as a medium.
Here are three things I have found that distinguish the experience of clairvoyance from my imagination:
1. Imagination is active. Clairvoyance is passive.
Off the top a big difference between the two is imagination is an active process and clairvoyance is a passive process.
When you are using your imagination you are exerting control over that mind function.
When you are using your clairvoyance you are (at least you should be, hint, hint...!) in a passive state, with a mind open to receive.
You get into your passive state by...
To name only three.
You take the steps necessary to ready yourself, putting your mind into the receptive state required for your clairvoyance to be able to work effectively.
You are putting your mind out of action.
Ok so what if you get an image and you are not in your prepared passive / receptive state? How do you tell the difference then?
Generally speaking you will be able to route something created actively in your imagination back to a previous or current thought process.
There will be an intentionality about it.
Clairvoyant images will usually just "pop in", are usually not connected to a current or previous stream of thought and are often quite random and out of the blue.
And fast! They come in quickly, whereas images via imagination tend to take a little more time and your participation to create.
2. The quality of clairvoyant images will be different from the quality of the images your create in your imagination.
This is a "know thyself" scenario. It will be different for each medium, for each person.
This is an experience that I have recognized happens for me and helps me to know the difference:
For me clairvoyance has a direction towards which it points me in my mind.
When I use my imagination to create images those images tend to appear in the central region of my head or mind's eye.
My clairvoyance, on the other hand, pulls me in a certain direction inside my head, as if urging me to pay attention to it. To "look over HERE!"
For example if I imagine an older man, the image that I have created of that older man will appear in the centre of my head or my mind's eye.
When I am perceiving an older man during mediumship via my clairvoyance I will be pulled towards that image, which may appear, say in the upper right hand "corner" of my mind, or to the lower left.
This also often corresponds to where the spirit is situated in the room - for example, standing next to the loved one that spirit is coming in to give a message to.
I have the same experience when receiving a psychic clairvoyant perception, as well.
My clairvoyance tends to pull my attention towards what it is perceiving. Like it's saying "woo hoo... over here...!" Here's a bridge! Here's a car! Or whatever it is trying to show me.
You get the picture. Badoom ching...
That is a signature of my clairvoyance - one of the distinct ways that I know it is my clairvoyance at work and not my imagination.
I have come to know this about myself through years of practice.
This may not be the very same for you, however. Your clairvoyance may have another signature quality to it, that is specific to you.
That is for you to figure out.
The way to figure this out is to practice creating images with your imagination and see how that works for you. Take note of that.
Then practice doing clairvoyant readings. Sit with a friend, receive information from your friend, tell your friend what you are seeing in your mind's eye, then get feedback from your friend as to the accuracy of what you are seeing.
You will then start to see a pattern around how that which you are perceiving via your clairvoyance (which will be validated as accurate by your friend) differs from how your imagination creates images on demand.
Do this lots and lots and lots! That's how you get good.
3. The first and clearest image will be the way into your clairvoyance. It is most often the most important, the most accurate and received directly via your clairvoyance.
Here is a little secret for you...
Trusting that first image fully - not humming and hawing about whether or not it is your imagination - is your doorway into your clairvoyance.
Yes you heard it here!
From there images will just pop and you will find your groove and the clairvoyant information will continue to flow.
It is as if you have opened the door to your clairvoyance and things get juicier from there.
This is why newbies are often more accurate with their clairvoyant perceptions than folks who are on to stage two or three of their development.
They don't know any better. They just GO with what they are getting!
You just have to demonstrate to your clairvoyance that you trust it.
And your clairvoyance will be happy to serve you.
So there you go. Three ways that you can tell the difference between your imagination and your clairvoyance.
Not clairvoyant? No problem. You'll see your clair(s) in an upcoming blog post!
Mediumship development, my friends, takes time and, frankly, is not easy.
True and good evidential mediumship is not a skill to be learned as quickly as possible.
It takes years of practice and a commitment to continuous improvement.
Yup... that's the truth of it.
Wish it was different and ala-kazam poof we could all instantaneously be incredibly awesome, whiz bang, always accurate, always confident evidential mediums.
But it ain't.
And we can't.
There are obstacles which must be overcome, ebbs and flows which must be ridden out in order for you to get better and better as a medium.
Wondering how to increase your chances of sticking with it and learning how to be a kickass medium?
Here are 7 tips that I recommend to help you increase your success with your mediumship development and help make it easier:
1. Know why you're doing it
Getting to a deeper understanding of why you want to learn mediumship is a very important first step.
And the depth of your reason will matter.
When you've got a really good reason for wanting to learn mediumship you'll be filled with a sense of purpose that will help to motivate you and help you to get through the tough spots, the ups and downs and the obstacles that you are sure to face as all mediums do.
Reflect on your deeper motivation for wanting to learn mediumship.
Is it because you want to impress people with your ability to connect with the spirit world?
Because you want to be famous and on TV just like your favorite famous celebrity medium?
Because mediumship seems like the hot new thing and you'd like to give it a go?
These are reasons, for sure, but are unlikely to carry you through the tough bits of your development.
Is it because you want to serve spirit with a minimum of flash (i.e. TV's not even in your thoughts), a maximum of humility (i.e. you will check your ego at the door) and a thirst to learn and improve your skills and be the very best medium that you can be in order to bring through healing and guidance from the spirit world to the loved ones in the living.
Now... there's a darn good reason.
So do some self-reflection as to why you want to study mediumship.
Discover your reason.
Let's hope it's a good one!
2. Find practice partners
Can you learn mediumship on your own?
Yes... you can learn to open yourself up to spirit and receive messages from the spirit world on your own.
Many have done so simply by sitting in silence for long periods of time over very long periods of time.
This can be very effective.
And rather lonely.
Which is fine if you've got tons of self-discipline.
However, when you've got a partner or partners who are also dedicated to developing their own mediumship skills to learn and practice with, you get to support each other, motivate one another and push each other on to more practice, to try harder and to stick with it.
You've got someone to turn to when the going gets tough to help you get going.
Someone to provide you with invaluable feedback.
And when necessary (and it will be...) kick your ass. :)
(Note: I have lovingly kicked ass for many students on their mediumship development journey. If you want to know more about that you can email me HERE and find out!)
3. Have fun with it
I've spent the first part of this blog post telling you how much work, practice and dedication it takes to learn mediumship.
Now I'm telling you to have fun with it.
Go figure, eh?!
I do mean it, though.
Just because it is all those things does not mean you can't have fun with it.
So approach your mediumship development from a place of joy.
Get playful with spirit and spirit will get playful with you.
Seek to find your delight in learning mediumship and it will become so much easier.
4. Be like a child
Think about how children learn.
They go for it, aren't paralyzed with the fear of making mistakes. They lack inhibition, love to play and don't know the meaning of the word "can't" (they do learn that as they grow unfortunately...).
What if you were to approach learning mediumship with that kind of attitude?
What if you were to let go of your grown up inhibitions?
Just sayin'... :)
5. Leave your comfort zone
No matter how much you learn about mediumship you will never grow unless you put yourself out there.
You won't grow unless you are willing to take a chance on you and your mediumship ability.
You won't grow unless you are willing to leave your comfort zone and put yourself in potentially difficult or embarrassing situations - getting up on the podium in front of a roomful of people to do a demonstration, or get up in front of your development circle - and be willing to make mistakes, mess up and not be perfect.
The more often you do this the bigger you comfort zone gets and the more at ease you will become with connecting with spirit and doing mediumship.
6. Watch people do it
You can learn so much just by watching other mediums doing mediumship.
You can learn what to do.
You can also learn what not to do.
So get out there, go visit some of your local spiritualist churches and watch the mediums in action doing demonstrations at the Sunday message service.
Visit places such as Lilydale in New York and check out the mediums at Inspiration Stump, Cassadaga Spiritualist Camp in Florida or Camp Chesterfield in Indiana and watch the mediums doing their thing!
Check out YouTube for mediums doing mediumship. Here's a few that I recommend:
Life After Death: A Medium conducts a reading with a Non-Believer (A good example because of the amount of evidence that this medium provides to the skeptical sitter. That is the type of evidence you should be shooting for...)
Gordon Higginson Demonstration (one of Britains finest and best known mediums) Another demonstration of good evidential mediumship. He gives full names, street names and other details.)
Observe things like what kind of evidence they bring through, what type of gestures they make, how they move or don't move on the platform, whether they do client centered or spirit centered mediumship (more on this in an upcoming blog post!), how they are poised, etc.
As the old saying goes... watch and learn!
7. Jump in!
You'll never learn how to be a medium and communicate with spirit if you only hang around on the sidelines.
Yes... Surround yourself with the culture of mediumship. Do all of the things that I have offered you above.
But most importantly...
Get in the habit of DOING IT.
Practice every opportunity that you get.
Do readings for trusted friends and family members.
Practice receiving messages from spirit everyday, whether for yourself of for others that you know.
Don't just watch... do!
Put what you are learning into practice.
You won't know how connected to spirit you can be until you try.
What are you waiting for???? :)
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Clairaudience is the ability to hear messages from the spirit world. It is the gift of psychic hearing.
How to tell if you have clairaudience:
Signs you might be clairaudient include (but are not limited to):
If you don't know whether you are clairaudient or not take my Mediumship Quiz to find out. I takes a few minutes to determine how you are most strongly wired as a medium.
Is clairaudience rare?
If you are a natural clairaudient, you're a rare bird, indeed.
Only 13% of the people that take my Mediumship Quiz score as natural clairaudients compared to the 37% of people who score as clairsentient - psychic feeling.
Clairaudience is sort of like the left-handedness of spirit communication! :)
Being clairaudient means that you receive messages from the spirit world and your guides through your internal - and sometimes external - hearing.
You hear words, sounds, music, etc. in your head during spirit communication. Spirit will send you things like first, last or middle names or initials, words from a favorite poem, song lyrics, humming, tones, ringing, fully formed words, the melody of a particular song and other possible sounds that provide evidence and help to identify the spirit.
Clairaudients also receive messages from their spirit guides through their hearing capacity. For example your spirit guide may send you the answer to a request that you've made for a sign through a song on the radio or an announcement over a loud speaker. Or by sending you a key word or sound via your psychic / internal hearing (ummm... your clairaudience... :)
If you are clairaudient you can be sure that your guides will try to get your attention through sound of some sort.
Clairaudience is like the spirit world talking on the phone with you... without the phone! ;)
Many clairaudients will go through periods when they hear intense ringing in their ears (but do not suffer from tinnitus) for sustained periods of time. This ringing often accompanies the onset of clairaudience or the beginning of mediumship development and usually subsides as you grow into your clairaudience.
For the most part, though, your clairaudience sounds just like you, talking to yourself in your head.
Except it's not coming from you.
How do you tell the difference between clairaudience and internal chatter?
There are several ways to distinguish psychic hearing from your internal chatter:
Clairaudience is a bit like claircognizance so it is easy to mix up these two clairs.
Here's a real life example of the difference:
I was at the grocery store a couple of days ago with my husband. As the cashier handed him the receipt I knew there was something wrong with it. When I checked it over we had, indeed, been overcharged by quite a bit for one of our items. This knowing is claircognizance. Clairaudience would have been hearing in my head out of nowhere the words "Check that receipt". I didn't hear those words. I just knew that something was up. That's the difference.
Now... just because you may not be a natural clairaudient doesn't mean that you can't develop the gift. You absolutely can! It just takes some time and practice. I will share some exercises that will help you do this.
And if you are a natural clairaudient the exercises below will help you strengthen and hone your gift.
So either way... go for it!
Ways to develop clairaudience
Here are 4 great ways to develop and strengthen your clairaudience:
1. Practice tuning into the sounds around you:
We spend an awful lot of time tuning out many of the sounds around us. There is such an excess of sound pollution that we actually need to do this to stay sane.
However, if you want to develop clairaudience you need to be willing to practice and make your physical hearing much more sensitive.
So try this:
Close your eyes and take a couple of nice deep breaths. Now l-i-s-t-e-n to the sounds in your environment, trying to tune into one at a time.
What do you hear? The sound of your neighbors lawn mower? The hum of the refrigerator? A cardinal singing in the tree outside the window?
Try and single out different sounds and focus on the for a minute or so. When you are done with that sound move on, identify a new one and focus solely on that one for a minute or so. Rinse and repeat for 10 minutes.
You can do this same exercise while listening to a piece of your favorite music through your ear buds. Single out and focus on different individual instruments for a 10 minute clairaudience meditation! Tip: classical music works really well for this exercise. Especially Beethoven's Symphony No.7 in A major: op 92 - II, Alegretto. I love practicing clairvoyance to this piece of music. :)
2. Practice hearing sounds or music inside your head
Do the opposite of what you did above and create sounds in your imagination.
Recreate the drip drip of that darn faucet that needs fixing.
Listen to your best favorite ever song from your best ever favorite musical - inside your head! Recreate the whole darn thing.
Practice recreating all kinds of different sounds. This definitely gets your clairaudient juices flowing and is great practice for natural clairaudients.
3. Take a silent walk in nature
So that ... no talkie talkie.
Then shhhhhhhh.... listen.
What do you hear?
4. Practice asking a question then receiving the answer from spirit
If you are in need of some guidance from your guides ask for it. Ask them to send you the answer via your clairaudience. Tell them you want to hear their guidance.
Then listen for the answer.
It might come from inside your head via your psychic hearing.
It might come externally through the words of a song or something you happen to overhear in a conversation that someone else is having. You might notice that you clearly hear a certain bird's call then check out the symbolism for that particular bird and BAM... you've got your answer.
Who knew practice could be so much fun!
So there you go all you special and unique clairaudients. Some easy ways to hone your gift of psychic hearing.
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Back in August 2016 I wrote this blog post on the Top 6 Must Have Crystals & Gemstones for Psychic Development.
It's been (and continues to be) a very popular blog post.
(If you haven't read that post then you might want to, as I will be sharing with you my suggestions for how to use those 6 very stones in this blog post.)
Since that time I have had many readers email me asking how to use these gemstones in psychic development. I've responded to each and every one with my suggestions.
Now, because of all the interest, I'm figuring it's time for a blog post on this topic.
What can I say... sometimes I'm a slow learner. ;)
There are several ways you can acquire these stones which include:
Ok, so now you have these six wonderful stones - and possibly even more - in your collection. Now what do you do with them?
Before you begin:
Before you begin to use your crystals and stones I highly recommend that you take these 3 steps with each one:
1. Clear & clean them:
Your new stones have spent time in the space and hands of others which means that they will be holding some residual energy, stored energy and possibly unwanted vibrations. It is important to clear these energies before you use the crystals and stones yourself.
4 great ways to do this are: (choosing one of these methods will do just fine)
2. Charge them:
Charging your crystals and stones will do wonders for them. Sunlight charges / recharges crystals.
Recharging is often recommended for crystals only, however I recharge both my crystals and my other gemstones, because recharging stones cannot hurt them, it will only be neutral at the very least (no effect whatsoever) or will be beneficial for them. So either way, I can't go wrong.
3. Set your intention for each crystal and stone:
Sometimes this is referred to as "activating" and/or "programming" your stones. I do this with an intention for each stone's use on my journey at this time.
My suggestions for setting your intention with your stones are:
So, for example, if you want your stones to help you on your psychic and mediumship development journey you would choose them for those specific qualities (like the ones that I recommend in my Top 6 post) then craft your intention to this effect and place that intention, either written or spoken, into each of the stones.
If want to change the intention that you have set for a particular stone simply follow the above steps to go back and clean, clear and charge that stone then infuse it with your new intention.
Now that you have cleaned, cleared, charged and set the intention for your stones/crystals here's...
How to use them:
Here are 5 effective ways to use your stones / crystals.
1. Wear them
Stones and crystals in pendant, ring, bracelet, wire wrapped with a bale for hanging from a chain, or other type of jewelry setting may be worn. See below for my recommendations for which of the "Top 6 Must Have's" are best worn.
Tumbled stones can also be worn by placing them in one of your pockets, inside your bra near your heart chakra, inside a medicine bag, in your purse, pocket book or wallet for a few suggestions. Come up with your own unique way of wearing and carrying your tumbled stones with you.
2. Pair them
Pairing stones that are complimentary with one another can enhance each of the stones powers making both of them stronger. Paring them can be as simple as wearing two stones together (finger rings work well this way) at the same time and as more advanced as having two different stones placed into one piece of jewelry so they are always together.
Pairing also works well when placing stones in a space. See below for my paring suggestions for the "Top 6".
3. Meditate with them
If you are using stones to enhance your psychic and mediumship abilities I strongly suggest that you meditate with them regularly.
Not only are they likely to increase your focus and concentration they will eventually even help you stay in meditation longer.
To meditate with your stones / crystals simply choose one and hold it in your hand during your meditation.
You can also hold your stone over one (or more by moving it during the meditation) of your chakras.
4. Place them in your spirit space
Make sure that you have some of your stones and crystals placed into you sacred and / or spirit space (the special place where you meditate and connect with spirit). Use your intuition to guide you towards their best placement in your space.
Obviously how you place the stones in your sacred space will depend on how you have configured that space so use the above as a guideline to come up with your own unique placement in your unique space.
5. Create a crystal grid
So much fun and such a powerful way to use your stones!
Using the power of Sacred Geometry you can work your stones into a grid pattern so that they can work together to bring you what it is you want from them.
I suggest a hexagonal grid for the Top 6 Must Haves.
I have a more detailed article plus my own grid layout specifically for psychic and mediumship enhancement and development plus a grid available for download exclusively for members in my Mediumship Learning Portal MLP). You can access all of that here.
Not a member yet. You can get your free password HERE. Enjoy!
As for the Top 6 Must Have Crystals & Gemstones that I recommend you acquire for your psychic and mediumship development here are my recommendations on how to use them:
Tazan Aura Quartz:
So there you go. More guidance on how to use your crystals and stones for your psychic and mediumship development journey.
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Developing your psychic and mediumship abilities takes patience and focus. Oh... and practice.
Practice makes your psychic & mediumship muscles stronger.
But we all have only so much time in a day. So when do we fit in all this practice?
I have found that breaking psychic practices down into simple, manageable (bite sized!) pieces works really well for me.
There are lots of little things that you can do in your day to help you keep your psychic medium muscles strong and supple.
Here are four simple daily practices that I highly recommend:
1. Be in quiet...
"A wise old owl sat in an oak
The more he saw the less he spoke
The less he spoke the more he heard
Why can't I be like that wise old bird?"
(Author unknown, Children's nursery song)
When you go for a run do you feel naked without your iPod earbuds in your ears?
When you are driving do you have talk radio on or music playing?
Do you generally feel the need to fill the quiet space around you with some kind of sound?
Back in 2007 I turned off the radio in my car. And I never turned it back on. I have driven thousands of miles in total silence. Driving has become a wonderful opportunity for me to practice being in quiet.
I have received many an intuitive flash while driving in silence.
I've even been a chauffeur to spirits who wanted to send a message to a loved one. (more on this in an upcoming post!)
So much of what we do as psychic mediums requires us to get into a place of mental quiet. That's one of the reasons that we meditate.
So it behooves us to get used to just being quiet. No bells, no whistles, just quiet.
I guarantee that if you get comfortable with being quiet you are doing wonders for your psychic muscles. And your connection with spirit.
Rather than trying to fill up every potentially quiet space with conversation, or music, or whatever, make a point of making at least one of the activities in your day something you do in quiet.
Taking a bus ride? Do it in silence. Simply sit, listen, observe, feel into the space.
Preparing a meal? Do it in silence.
Turn off the radio in the car and drive in the silence.
Leave your iPod at home when you go for you run. Take your run in silence.
Cozy up to the sound of silence.
2. Go with the flow
When an urge hits you to take a certain action or do a certain thing go ahead and do it.
When this happens it is your subconscious trying to get through. Your inner voice is speaking with you. Your intuition is knocking!
The more you trust that voice within instead of letting external influences (the needs of others for example) dictate your movements and choices, the more you tune into the voice of your own intuition, the more your develop your psychic muscles.
Yup. S'true. :)
So allow yourself to go with the flow at least once a day.
3. Inspirational writing
Give your imagination total control for 10 minutes each day. Let it speak to you through inspirational writing.
Here's how you do that:
Many famous authors, the likes of Mary Shelly (author of Frankenstein) included have allowed themselves to let their imaginations take over and flow with inspirational writing. That's how their stories were born!
Your goal (if there is one at all) is simply to relax and let your imagination take over and inspire you.
Have fun conducting little psychic experiments of your own and keep track of your results in a journal.
Here is one example of how to do this:
Just before going to bed at night take a moment to visualize in your mind something that you will be doing or a place that you will be visiting the next day.
Let's say you will be going to lunch with a friend and will be eating in a restaurant you have not previously visited. Imagine yourself at that lunch before going to sleep. Take in the scene in your mind’s eye and notice details such as:
Who is around you?
Who is at your table?
What is the server wearing?
What do you see when you look at the menu?
What do the chairs look like?
What colour is the tablecloth?
How are the walls decorated?
Try to visualize and notice as many details as you can, then jot down a description of the all the details that you see.
At lunch the next day, look around and take note of things that match what you saw in your mind’s eye the night before.
You can also have fun pre-visualizing such things as which teller will serve you at your bank, who you might meet at the grocery store and who is calling you on the phone (before answering and, no peeking at call display!)
Come up with your own fun ways to experiment with your psychic abilities. And don't forget to keep track of your results and progress in your journal.
So there you go. Four super simple daily practices to keep your psychic medium muscles strong!
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“When you have cleared all of your clutter you can be of greater service to those around you.” ~ Michael B. Kitson
Your chakras are intimately involved with your ability to receive information during psychic and mediumship readings.
You are bouncing off the energy fields of others around you all the time. You pick up their energy and they pick up yours. This goes on in both your everyday life and in your readings.
Therefore it is important to release and clear negative, stuck or stagnant energy contained within your chakras to bring them back into balance and good alignment. Otherwise you risk not only experiencing the physical symptoms of chakra imbalance such as feeling tired or listless, headaches, coughs that tend to hang on, a sore lower back and so on, but also hindering your ability to accurately read energy and experience a clear connection with the spirit world.
That's why your chakras need a good clean, clear and declutter every now and then to keep you psychically sharp and in good chakra shape.
Making chakra decluttering a regular part of your psychic care routine is a highly recommended practice for every new, developing and practicing psychic and medium.
(pssst... I make this easy for you down below where I include a meditation to help you do just that. But first...)
...You may be well acquainted with the chakras. For those who need an introduction or a quick refresher here you go:
The chakras are energy centres or wheels of energy in your body through which energy flows. There are seven chakras which are located at points starting at the base of your spine all the way up the centre of your body to the top of your head. When all is well with the chakras energy flows beautifully through each of them. Blocked or cluttered chakras means that there is not enough energy circulating through that chakra and can lead to physical imbalance, illness and loss of connection with spirit and your higher self. Here is a brief overview of each of the chakras, where they are and what they are associate with:
First chakra: Also known as the root chakra. Located at the base of the spine / tailbone area. Associated with security and survival issues such as money, food and shelter. Color: red.
Symptoms when cluttered or out of balance: lower back pain, diarrhea, fear, exhaustion, financial issues, addiction, lethargy.
Second chakra: Also known as the sacral chakra. Located in the lower abdomen her the pubic bone. Associated with creative energy, pleasure, overall well-being, abundance. Color: orange.
Symptoms when cluttered or out of balance: jealousy, lack of sexual desire, urinary tract infections, kidney stones, experiencing creative blocks.
Third chakra: Also know as the solar plexus. Located in the upper abdomen in the stomach area. Associated with issues of self-worth, self-esteem and self-confidence. Color: yellow.
Symptoms when cluttered or out of balance: stomach ailments, fear, ulcers, bulimia, obesity, indigestion, feelings of victimization.
Fourth chakra: Also known as the heart chakra. Located in the centre of the chest just above the heart. Color: green, pink. Associated with the ability to give and receive love.
Symptoms when cluttered or out of balance include: heart problems (including heart attach), intolerance, week immune system, asthma, angina and lack of joy in life.
Fifth chakra: Also known as the throat chakra. Located in the base of the throat (Adam’s apple area). Color: blue. Associated with communication, decision making, creativity and truth.
Symptoms when cluttered or out of balance include: Soar throats, dishonesty, thyroid problems, incessant talking, being too shy, inability to speak one’s truth to another.
Sixth chakra: Also know as the third eye or brow chakra. Located just above the eyebrows in the centre of the forehead. Color: indigo. Associated with intuition, intelligence, wisdom and discernment.
Symptoms when cluttered or out of balance include: migraine headaches, tension headaches, eye problems, feeling spaced out, forgetfulness, inability to remember one’s dreams, being too much in one’s head, problems staying focussed and an inability to connect with one’s inner wisdom.
Seventh chakra: Also known as the crown chakra. Located at the top of the head. Color: violet, pure white light. Associated with inspiration, oneness with the Universe, divinity, inspiration and present moment awareness.
Symptoms when cluttered or out of balance include: confusion, dominant ego function, mental illness, worry and dizziness.
Chakras work both individually and cooperatively with each other at the same time. When one is out of balance it usually means that the one below or just above it is also out of balance. So it makes good sense to approach delcuttering the chakras holistically, giving them all a good declutter, cleanse and clear. This can be done through visualization, meditation, (which I include below!) and even simply replacing negative thoughts and perspectives that you hold with positive, joyous ones.
(I also have a free eBook: Chakras & Auras: Their Role and Importance in Mediumship & Psychic & Intuitive Development. How to Put Them to Work for You! which is available to you when you join my Mediumship Learning Portal. It's free!)
Here is a very simple visualization to help your declutter your chakras:
(This meditation (and many more!) is also available for free online listening when you join my Mediumship Learning Portal.)
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Here we go:
1. Sit comfortably in a quiet spot.
2. Take a few nice deep in and out breaths. Breath in calm and relaxation. Breath out worry and any residue from you day.
3. Once you feel more calm and relaxed visualize a ball of pure white light. See this pure white light just above your head. Watch as this ball of pure white light opens and envelops your whole body, like a refreshing and glorious waterfall from the top of your head down to the bottom of your feet. Feel the warmth and protection of this pure white light.
4. Now taking a full deep breath, breath this pure white light into your crown chakra at the top of your head. Watch as it envelops your crown chakra. As the pure white light encircles your crown chakra say:
“I breath love, light and healing into my crown chakra. All clutter, residue and that which does not serve me are consumed by this pure white light and returned to source. I release all that has blocked me from receiving the highest light and love.”
Visualize the pure white light swirling around and through your seventh chakra, cleaning and clearing all blockages and returning them to source forever.
5. Now take a deep breath and watch as this pure white light swirls its way down to your third eye chakra. Watch as it envelops your third eye chakra. As the pure white light encircles your third eye chakra say:
“I breath love, light and healing into my third eye chakra. All clutter, residue and that which does not serve me are consumed by this pure white light and returned to source. I release all that has blocked me from receiving the highest light and love.”
Visualize the pure white light swirling around and through your sixth chakra, cleaning and clearing all blockages and returning them to source forever.
6. Now take a deep breath and watch as this pure white light makes its way down to your throat chakra. Watch as it envelops your throat chakra. As the pure white light encircles your throat chakra say:
“I breath love, light and healing into my throat chakra. All clutter, residue and that which does not serve me are consumed by this pure white light and returned to source. I release all that has blocked me from receiving the highest light and love.”
Visualize the pure white light swirling around and through your fifth chakra, cleaning and clearing all blockages and returning them to source forever.
7. Now take a deep breath and watch as this pure white light makes its way down to your heart chakra. Watch as it envelops your heart chakra. As the pure white light encircles your heart chakra say:
“I breath love, light and healing into my heart chakra. All clutter, residue and that which does not serve me are consumed by this pure white light and returned to source. I release all that has blocked me from receiving the highest light and love.”
Visualize the pure white light swirling around and through your fourth chakra, cleaning and clearing all blockages and returning them to source forever.
8. Now take a deep breath and watch as this pure white light makes its way down to your solar plexus chakra. Watch as it envelops your solar plexus chakra. As the pure white light encircles your solar plexus chakra say:
“I breath love, light and healing into my solar plexus chakra. All clutter, residue and that which does not serve me are consumed by this pure white light and returned to source. I release all that has blocked me from receiving the highest light and love.”
Visualize the pure white light swirling around and through your third chakra, cleaning and clearing all blockages and returning them to source forever.
9. Now take a deep breath and watch as this pure white light makes its way down to your sacral chakra. Watch as it envelops your brow chakra. As the pure white light encircles your sacral chakra say:
“I breath love, light and healing into my sacral chakra. All clutter, residue and that which does not serve me are consumed by this pure white light and returned to source. I release all that has blocked me from receiving the highest light and love.”
Visualize the pure white light swirling around and through your second chakra, cleaning and clearing all blockages and returning them to source forever.
10. Now take a deep breath and watch as this pure white light makes its way down to your root chakra. Watch as it envelops your root chakra. As the pure white light encircles your root chakra say:
“I breath love, light and healing into my root chakra. All clutter, residue and that which does not serve me are consumed by this pure white light and returned to source. I release all that has blocked me from receiving the highest light and love.”
Visualize the pure white light swirling around and through your first chakra, cleaning and clearing all blockages and returning them to source forever.
11. Now take a deep breath and watch as the pure white light leaves your body through the root chakra a the base of your spine and goes deep into the earth completely grounding you. Watch as the pure white light that envelops your body dissipates and goes out into the universe leaving you cleared and decluttered.
There you go. Your chakras are cleared, cleansed and back in healthy balance.
Now, go enjoy doing your psychic & mediumship readings!
Mediumship is an awesome thing. It is a beautiful blessing for those folks who choose to develop their mediumship gift and also for those who receive healing readings from good mediums.
Have you ever been to a public mediumship demonstration and witnessed the laughter, tears and deeply emotional responses from recipients in the audience who have had a good, healing reading from one of the mediums? It warms your heart.
That's what I'm talking about.
However mediumship is also a delicate and sometimes difficult thing to get a hold of, as it were.
Sometimes it's so many spirits coming in at once it gets hard to keep track of who's who and what's what.
Then there are those times when the information comes in so fast and all over the place that you feel out of control of your mediumship experience.
Alas, there are also those times when you just can't seem to get anything out of the spirits. You're waiting and waiting for grandma to throw you a bone and it just isn't coming...
The good news is that you can take more control of your mediumship, and receive more and better information from the spirits.
Yes. You can set the bar for what it is you want and need from the spirits. And get it.
How's that you say?
Remember the chef Emeril Lagasse?
How did he take control of his cooking?
Yup, that's right. BAM Works with mediumship, too.
Clare (you ask)... what's BAM?
BAM is three steps you take in the same order every single time you do a mediumship reading of any kind that allows you to take more control of your mediumship experience.
BAM puts you in the driver's seat.
Here's the three steps of BAM:
#1: B = the BASICS
First things first. Start with the basics. When you know you've got a spirit who wants to communicate, before you do anything else you need to get the identification BASICS from that spirit so you have some idea of who you're talking to.
What I mean here are the basic, entry level physical and characteristic identifiers such as...
... things like that.
One of my mediumship teachers referred to this getting the spirit's "name, rank and serial number."
For example, it's one thing to say your readee:
"I have an older man here... feels like he could be your grandfather."
And an entirely different thing to offer to your readee:
"I have an older gentleman here who had quite a thick head of white hair well into his old age. He was around 80 years old when he transitioned. He was a man of smaller stature and he had a really good sense of humor. He could be cheeky and lots of fun and he easily made people laugh."
The first example does not identify much at all. It's a vague description - an older man - and a guess on the part of the medium that he could be my grandfather.
Ummm... sure, he could be my grandfather but how would I KNOW? My grandfather was surely an older gentleman but aren't they all?
The second example gives me characteristics that my grandfather actually had. The medium has given me some of the basics of his personality and his physical attributes.
This fellow definitely feels like he's shaping up to be my grandad in spirit!
I'm getting pretty excited at this point.
We are clearly onto something good here but that is still not quite enough.
The information provided in the second example is a great start, and dispels a great deal of potential confusion, but I still need more to be sure.
I need to know that the medium is talking to my small, thick white haired, funny grandad, not just any grandad that fits the same description.
#2: A = Ask & Authenticate
The second step in BAM is to authenticate, for the sitter, (me in this example), who the spirit is.
How do you do this?
You ASK the spirit for authentic information.
Spirit communication is a two way street. You can ask the spirit for solid, specific pieces of evidential information. In fact you MUST do this. How is the spirit to know what you want and need if you don't ask?
Ask the spirit for something that will make it undeniably clear who he or she is.
Ask the spirit: "How will this person know you?"
Receive then relay the spirit's answer to your recipient.
The spirit might share a warm memory with you. And a favorite vacation spot. The spirit might tell you what he did for a living and what he liked to eat for breakfast on Sunday.
B (basics) + A (authentication) = OMG this is undoubtedly my grandfather!!
That's what you're shooting for.
Those pieces of information unique to the spirit that leave no room for doubt about who the spirit is. Specifics.
Continuing with my grandfather in spirit as the example this could be something like:
"This gentleman shows me his ankle, which looks injured or even broken. He looks to be an older man, in his sixties when this happened to him. He also shows me the Union Jack flag, a vintage airstream trailer and the number '76' ".
My grandfather was from England, loved to travel and at one point owned an awesome 1960's airstream upon which he proudly displayed a decal of the Union Jack. I traveled with him in that airstream during the summer of '76. And my grandfather broke his ankle playing soccer with me and my sister when he was 67 years old.
I now have no doubt that the medium has made a connection with my grandfather. No doubt whatsoever.
Now... the medium could continue to bring through more details, physical characteristics and other things that reaffirm this spirit as my grandfather. And that would be fine.
However spirits come through to their loved ones in the living because they have something more to say. They have a...
#3 M = Message:
It takes a great deal of effort on the part of a spirit to make contact with a medium.
The spirits don't do this lightly.
Spirits go to all the trouble it takes them to make contact for a reason. It's because they have something they want to say.
They have a message for the person they are coming to speak to.
A mediumship reading without a message is like an ice-cream sundae without whipped cream and a cherry on top.
It's like Fred Astaire without Ginger Rogers.
It's like a Marguerita without the reposado tequila...
Something important is missing.
I have seen mediums receive wonderful B (basic identifiers) and amazing A (authentication) that leaves no room for doubt as to who the spirit is, then end the reading right there. Over. Finito.
Don't do this.
Once you know that your sitter is absolutely certain they know who you have there with you in spirit it is time to ask the spirit for his or her message.
You can ask: What message do you have for your loved one?
Or: What is it you'd like your loved one to know?
And you don't need to ask this out loud. Simply ask the spirit telepathically for the message. Always ask telepathically.
Every spirit message is unique and wonderful.
Some are very down to earth and pretty regular. Like, for example, this message that I brought through from a mom in spirit to her daughter:
"Honey, I love that you are painting your kitchen but I really don't like the yellow you have chosen. Its too pale and boring. Go with green."
(BTW... the daughter laughed and then cried because she was so delighted to know that her mother in spirit was watching her paint her kitchen. She decided to stick with yellow though... :)
Some messages are very healing and help put to rest things left unsaid. Some clear up misunderstandings between the spirit and the loved one left behind. Some messages I've received from the spirit world have even revealed to the loved one where an important document or item was located.
Before you close the connection with the spirit make sure you ask for the Message.
So there you have it. The BAM technique.
B: Basics - get & share them
A: Ask & Authenticate - specific evidence
M: Message - get one!
BAM helps you make a good, strong link with the spirit world.
BAM makes it clear to the spirits what you need from them to communicate successfully.
BAM takes your mediumship from chaos to crystal clear.
Bring the BAM technique into your mediumship and dramatically improve the quality of your readings.
4 Tips for Working with Your Spirit Guides in Mediumship
This post is the third and final part of the Straight Talk from a Spirit Guide series.
If you missed the first two articles here are the links:
Part One: What This Spirit Guide Thing is Really All About
Part Two: Spirit Guides and Mediumship: Who They Are and How They Help Us
Continuing my conversation with my main teacher guide Monika:
Clare: Monika, you have given us a lot of good information about spirit guides and mediumship.
Today what I would really like you to cover for our readers is this: What is the best way for us to work with our guides in our mediumship?
Monika: Sounds good, Clare. First let me do a brief recap of what I've talked about so far:
All mediums have a special mediumship guide who oversees everything to do with your mediumship growth, learning, development and the actual practice of mediumship.
In addition to your mediumship guide you also have a gatekeeper guide, who keeps the gate between you and the spirit world so to speak. You will also receive help from your joy guide and your healer guide, too.
Your joy guide can help you to raise your vibration for your mediumship.
Your healer guide can point you towards just the right healing ways and tools for you such as crystals and gemstones to support your development, essential oils or practices such as yoga or reiki to help keep you calm and balanced for your mediumship.
So now to address your question about how you can best work with your guides?
I have four tips to help you work really well with your guides in your mediumship readings and demonstrations.
1. Set a clear intention for your work as a medium and for your mediumship.
To do this you need to:
The best time to do this when you are first starting out. If you have not yet set an intention for your work, take the time to do it! Your intention may change over time as your how and develop as a medium and that is just fine. However, sorting out the above as you begin you journey will really help you and your guides.
When you set a clear intention your mediumship guide and the other guides will be know how to best help you with your mediumship!
2. Make a connection with your mediumship guide. Get to know him or her!
You can do this by going into meditation and asking your mediumship guide to come to you. Ask him or her for a sign of their presence and be specific with what you ask for.
Then give your guide the space to send that sign to you. Be open to receive what your mediumship guide sends you!
You can also ask all of your guides to show / tell you where each of them stands or situates him or herself while you are doing your mediumship readings and demonstrations. Maybe your mediumship guide stands beside you or in front of you. Find out by asking!
3. Open up the line of communication by talking to your mediumship guide and your other guides.
Call your guides in before each of your readings and explicitly ask them for what you want during spirit communication.
Do you want them to line up the spirits one by one so you are not overwhelmed by too many spirits trying to come through all at once?
Tell your mediumship guide that is what you want!
Need more specific information but having difficulty getting it from a spirit who has showed up during a client session or demonstration?
Ask your mediumship guide to help you get that information.
You can absolutely ask your mediumship guide for anything you feel you need for your mediumship. Books, articles, learning materials, opportunities to practice, the right clients, the right venues for demonstration work. Whatever you want or need from your guides - just ask!
Need help raising your vibration? Ask your joy guide (or whoever on your guide team looks after that) to do that for you! You can find out who on your team helps raise your vibration by asking that guide to step forward in a meditation. He or she will be more than happy to do so!
Feel tired or ungrounded after doing your readings? Ask your healer guide to help you out with that.
The more that you talk with your guides, the more you deepen your relationship with them. And... they love it when you talk with them! They love to be regarded as the supportive wonderful spirit world dear friends that they are.
And last but certainly not least...
4. Thank your guides for working with you.
Take a moment to thank your guides for being there with you during your mediumship readings and public demonstrations.
Be sure to express your appreciation for all that they do for you and all the ways that they help you.
You can also take some time to debrief with with your guides after your readings. Let them know what went really well for you and also let them know where you felt challenged during your reading or demonstration.
If something didn't go so well ask them to help you do things differently the next time around. Ask your guides to put you in the path of everything that you might need to be able to accomplish what you want to happen go forward on your mediumship journey.
And that is how you work with your guides in your mediumship!
Clare: Monika, thank you for all of that information. It is very helpful!
Oh, and... thank you for all you do for me.
Monika: You are very welcome, Clare.
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